We’ve all heard it, from our friends and from those TV shows you can’t help but watch after you crawl into bed at 10 PM. The Friend Zone is something that every guy can fall into, and in the worst cases, there’s no way to get out of it. But that’s just not true, my friends! There are plenty of ways to get out of the Friend Zone and into the arms of someone who wants to hold you close…and even closer! Here are some tips on how to end up with someone who loves you, not your friendship.
Meet My New Friends
If you have been in the friend zone for too long, it might be time to take some drastic measures. It might be time for love texts! Love texts are messages that express romantic feelings but are not sexually explicit. They are a gentle way of expressing interest in someone and can be very effective at helping you escape the friend zone.
Love texts work because they don’t come across as creepy or aggressive- if you approach someone from a place of love, they will respond positively.
If you give up all hope, nothing will change
It’s difficult for people to see themselves as anything other than the person they are. It’s even more difficult for us to imagine that we can change. And when we imagine that we can change, it often seems impossible or so far in the future that it doesn’t matter. If you give up all hope, nothing will change. In order to have any hope of changing at all, you need to believe in yourself and your ability to change.
Never let your hopes die
If you think that the friend zone is a lie, then you’ve never been there. Being in the friend zone hurts just as much as any other heartbreak. It’s not just the unwanted feelings of love, it’s also the feeling that you will never get out of this hole you dug for yourself. But if you think that it’s only your fault, then I’m here to tell you that it’s not true.
Let the past be dead
For years, I sat in the friend zone, waiting for my friend to see that we were perfect for each other. My love texts went unnoticed, unreturned, while she was busy dating other people. It took me awhile, but eventually I realized that I was being so focused on my own desires that I couldn’t see how much she cared about me. Once I let go of the idea of what it should be like and just enjoyed our friendship for what it was, we grew even closer.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable
We tell ourselves lies. Lies so convincing, we believe them for decades. I’m not good enough. I don’t have what it takes. I’ll never make it. These are just some of the most popular ones. It’s time to stop telling these lies to yourself, break free from your own self-imposed prisons. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable by opening up more in your relationships with others. It’s okay if you’re not perfect or if you want something more than friendship. So many of us buy into this idea that there are two types of people in the world – those who get into relationships and those who stay as friends – when in reality there are infinite possibilities.
Learn how to connect with people on a deeper level
Love texts are more than just woke up like this or had fun last night. They can be the most intimate form of communication. Whether you want to flirt with someone or fill them in on what’s happening in your life, there are plenty of ways that text messages can bring two people closer together. 1) Reach out. 2) Check in. 3) Compliment them on something they did well. 4) Ask how they’re feeling/what they’re doing right now. Love texts don’t have to be deep conversations; they don’t have to be anything other than love at first sight through text message. The easiest way to get out of the friend zone is by sending some love texts!
Opening yourself up is scary but worth it
Opening up can be scary. If you’re not ready, it’s hard to know where that leaves you. But if you don’t open yourself up, how will you ever find out what could happen? I’m not saying this will work for everyone, but I want to share my experience with one of the craziest things I did for love. Maybe it’ll help someone else make their own crazy decision.
Let them choose their own pace for getting closer
You have the opportunity for closeness with someone because you are friends but it doesn’t happen. It’s possible that both of you want closeness but don’t know how to get there. It’s also possible that one person wants closeness more than the other, or that both people are waiting for the other person to make the first move.
There are many ways to get closer, they don’t all need to be big steps.